What’s the conversation you tell yourself?

A Sunday SoulFilling Reflection: Spark the Conversation

The truth is, we’re always in conversation. With others, yes. But especially with ourselves. We narrate our days, our choices, our relationships. We hold onto thoughts that, over time, can become fixed stories. And sometimes, those stories aren’t even true anymore. They’re old patterns. Familiar beliefs. Leftover scripts from the past that no longer serve who we are or who we want to become.

So today, I invite you to pause and ask: Is what I’m telling myself actually true?

Especially in your relationships. Because that’s where we can get stuck. Maybe you’ve said to yourself, “This will never change.” Or, “This is just how it is between us.” But ask yourself, is that really true? Or is it just the loop your brain has been running for years?

Here’s what I know: the brain is powerful, and so are your thoughts. If you don’t tell your brain what to think, it will tell you. And it’ll often default to the most well-worn path, the one shaped by fear, frustration, or fatigue. And over time, this kind of thinking impacts more than just your mood.

According to research in Positive Psychology, repetitive negative thinking actually lowers brain function. It narrows your focus, reduces clarity, and can even affect your physical health. But here’s the good news: small shifts can make a big difference.

Try this today:

• Start your morning with: “Today is going to be a great day.”

• End your night with: “What went well today?”

These aren’t just feel-good phrases, they’re brain training. When you end your day on a positive note, your brain stores that thought as a “closing message,” which can shape how you feel when you wake up. And when your day begins with optimism, you’re more likely to notice possibilities instead of problems.

Now let’s bring it back to relationships. What do you want in your relationships? Write it down. Be honest. Be balanced. Then, when thoughts arise throughout the day or week, especially the ones that bring up doubt, frustration, or fear, ask yourself: Is this thought true?

And if it’s not, gently challenge it. Reframe it. Tell your brain what is true today, in this season, in this version of who you’re becoming. Because peace, growth, and connection often begin with a single new thought.

Am I open to thinking something different about this relationship, something more life-giving, more healing, more hopeful?

Start your day. Shape your thoughts. Spark your brain.

With you on the journey,

Francine

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